I am so excited to share with you so many amazing young women who are joining with me on this Book + Blog Tour! Stay tuned each day for their stories, testimonies and reviews of my brand new book Savoring Single! Now Available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.
Dear unsatisfied teen,
The struggle is real, the pressure is on and I know you face it every day: to be acknowledged, known, accepted and loved. The world can and will only offer an unsatisfying taste of what leaves you begging for more. But know this, there is One who sees and knows, accepts and loves and His name is Jesus. You may not look cool walking down the hallway at school holding his hand, but when all of that noise is gone and you are left alone in your room, He’ll still be there. No other friend, boyfriend, status or conquest can offer you that.
Dear unsatisfied young adult,
I’ve been in your shoes and they are hard to walk in. Trying everyday to be better qualified than the day before, with greater hopes he’s right around the corner only to turn it and still be standing alone. Your life is what you make of it and if you build it on the pursuit of your dreams, disappointment will wash in with a rolling tide that will only go out to come in and wash it again. This is why we are to build our hope on a foundation that cannot be moved, where our dreams flood our already established lives with the warmth and joy of having pursued them from a place of strength. This strength is not self-sufficiency but surrender. When we trust God enough to surrender our every dream and our very lives to Him, we are more firmly established. When I surrendered my dream to be married, I didn’t lose it, I left it in far more capable hands.
Dear satisfied teen,
Continue to guard your heart and “run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” (2 Timothy 2:22) Run. Pursue. Enjoy. These will fill your life with the joy and contentment God intends us to live from while we are single.
Dear satisfied young adult,
“Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young (single + content). Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.” (1 Timothy 4:12 parenthesis mine) Continue to grow your life through Christ. Pursue those adventures and let every dream of His unfold as you embrace the calling of God on your life. Always remembering that your life is also a light to all you influence by how you live. So live well in what you say, how you live and love, by your faith and purity.
Do you often feel defeated when you don’t get what you want? Or feel left out when you seem to have less than you need? It’s easy to get prideful when our bellies (or wallets) are full, but stingy and grumpy when we’re hungry. We always want plenty and anything less can cause us to wonder if God is really good and question his love for us… but this is such a defeated way to live and there is a better way! Click the image to read how to Be Content, no matter your season or circumstance. I pray it encourages your heart today!
“Shelley Black has a lot of practical and heartfelt wisdom and ideas, I feel. It was just … encouraging! Reviving. Fun. Thoughtful. Deep. Sweet. I enjoyed returning to the pages of Savoring Single each day.” – Lady Grace
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“The truth is, although being a single pringle can be difficult, it’s NOT permanent. But even though Paul talks about singleness being a gift from God, we don’t share his perspective. It doesn’t mean that you have to be single forever. You can embrace your singleness, knowing that God has someone out there for you, and you’re doing the right thing waiting for him.”
“I’ve read books about being single before, and honestly few have measured up. I often come away feeling my whole life is about preparing for marriage, and while that’s a good goal, its not my life purpose. Shelley really lays out that our whole lives boil down to our relationship with God, anything after that is just icing on the cupcake 😉 I love the fact that the author encourages us to fully live life right now! … I highly recommend this book for any single young woman out there!”
“My favorite part of the whole book was the section about purity. The author did it in such a way it really was not uncomfortable, and she really showed the reasons behind it. Also, she covered mental purity, which I appreciated so much. It really got me to thinking about way’s I can work on making my thought patterns purer. Overall, this was a very thought-provoking book on singleness.”
“You will have the capacity to trust God to the level you honor His Word in your life. It’s not a magical, wand-waving, fairy tale romance. It’s faith. And what is faith if it doesn’t require you to actually believe in Him? Faith is not a fast-pass to answered prayer, it’s standing in line with Him and then not getting on the ride unless He does too.”
“Shelley is completely honest and authentic with her struggle and it is such a beautiful thing. If you are struggling in your season of singleness, I highly recommend this book. If you aren’t, I still highly recommend this book. Whatever season you are in right now, you will learn so much from Shelley.”
- How has your season of singleness impacted your life and your relationship with God, currently?
- What was the first time you felt like you were truly content with your singleness?
- Have you ever struggled with your desire to get married, now? If yes, how do you deal with that? What do you do to focus on God again?
- If you could share your best advice about trusting God to your younger self, what would it be?
Review from Heidi at The Caffeinated Bibliophile!
“Happy Valentine’s Day! Today is a day where there are many mixed emotions due to love and singleness. But today, I’m excited to chat with Shelley Black, the author of Savoring Single, as part of her blog tour on her new book and her advice for those of us who are single today.”
“This Valentines Day, as a single, really take the time to lean into God as well as the other singles in your life. Take the time to look at what you may be using to complete you. This takes all forms and can even be what’s good but has turned into something far more important then it should.”
“My recommendation for who reads this book is that every middle school girl and older should read this. And anyone who desires a closer relationship with God should read it.” Read the rest of Phyllis’ review and my testimony here.
“My heart is so full after listening to such raw, real encouragement from the heart of one single to other single girls. My struggles with singleness started to dissolve that night. Shelley’s joy was contagious and unmistakable.
My soul was also thankful for the reminder–especially so close to Valentine’s–that He hasn’t designed to be something to be lonely but fulfilling and beautiful. 💗💗💗 I left challenged and compelled to live this season with rejoicing and purpose.”
“I love how Shelley puts a lot of importance on developing a relationship with God, as God can fill the empty places in your heart, and even prepare you to love who God has called you to be.” Read the Q+A here.
“What happens when you feel stuck in the insecurity and loneliness that comes with living a single life? What do you do when rejection gets in the way of truly giving yourself to God? In her book, Savoring Single, Shelley Black points toward biblical truths that pull you out of discouragement and propel you into living a prosperous life for Christ.” Click here to read more.
“…if you are content in your identity in Christ, comparison won’t take a grip on your heart and you won’t feel belittled at someone else’s success, strengths or beauty. What a better way to live!” Click here to read more.
“…Shelley doesn’t just leave readers with the knowledge of why singleness is a good thing and why it is important. She provides you with advice on how to savor your single years and how to make them count.” Click here to read her full review.
Read Isabella’s review on Amazon.
“I’m not alone. He’s with me and will never leave.
I’m not rejected. He’s chosen me and pursued me, even in my mess.
I’m not last pick. I’m His first pick.” Read the full article here.
“The word just gave me the heebie jeebies! Webster defines singleness as the quality or state of being single. However, I defined singleness as the quality or state of being ashamed or being a failure. In my mind, the only thing worse than having to claim singleness was being so close to throwing out that identity forever and then having to go put it back on again.” Keep reading here.
“When I realized that my singleness had a specific calling within it, my whole outlook changed! … Be a lady in living not a lady in waiting” – Jessica
“But God doesn’t just forsake us in our season of waiting, He draws us close, wipes away our tears, comforts us when we are hurting. He is all we ever need & only when we are fully & completely satisfied in Him, can we ever be content in a human relationship. When your heart is not filled with Christ, it will desperately grab at anything & everything to satisfy it.” Read more from Abby here.
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