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Category: Single Does Not =

Posted on February 24, 2017October 4, 2017

Single does not mean FOREVER

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This is hard core truth dressed up in pretty pink. When it's the hardest to pray... When it's the hardest to prophesy His promise because everything seems the exact opposite... When worship comes through soul-wrenching tears... When declaring who He is feels like a knife because you're choosing faith instead of fear and doubt... This is when you become that fierce woman of God you want to be. This is when you place yourself as a daughter on His lap. This is when He wins your heart, your battle, your life. This is when the button the enemy used to push to defeat you is rendered useless to his devices. And girl don't I know it! 36 and single with zero prophetic clarity as to why. I've prayed these prayers through sorrow and grief dozens of times. But each time I grow stronger in Christ. How I know? Because the language of my prayer changes. And the peace that comes is such a beautiful reminder that He's a perfect Father and had never let me down.
What you feel as you scroll, when you close the app, when you want to open it up again. These are all tells - to ourselves - and are the fruit of what we are consuming. Maturity and self-awareness come when we then act accordingly. Unfollow. Unsubscribe. Setting dark hours and no phone zones. Or even writing that inspirational thought down to pray about it later. Better yet, right then. "📷" Thanks for sharing @justallisonmarie by way of @abimeganreid.
This is me. After a month of not working out, I made it a whole 2 sets in the gym and I'm toast. So instead of rocking a session with my trainer, I'm in the locker room queezy and can't hardly breathe. See, for me, eating right coincides with working out. If one falls off they both do. And they both did because my schedule at work has been crazy. With all the changes my routine has been non-existent. So this is my humble way of starting over. I am embarrassed and wasted a valuable session....but so much so, I'm not gonna let that happen again anytime soon! But faith is often the same way. We wait for the big moment to strengthen our faith only to fall short. When devotional time falls off, so does our character or right choices, making it easier to compromise and distance ourselves from accountability. But then goliath shows up like a failed relationship, negative doctors report or traumatic life event and we end up hiding in the bathroom out of shape and weak. Worse yet, we often blame it on God like somehow He didn't come through. When really, we just didn't take our preparation seriously enough to be ready. We must prepare. It's just as important as the battle itself. Even determining the outcome before we ever hit the battle field. So this week, I'm going to eat better and add in a gym session, to get back in the swing of things. What can you do, in life or faith, to prepare for what's next?
I don't post on single stuff much anymore. It's not because I'm not still single. Still am. Still savoring. But because I believe God had to get me thru to get me here. See, my heart was once enamored by the constant awareness of being single, longing to be married and all the ways I could be missing it. missing him. and missing out. "he" was my pursuit and the deepest desire of my heart. It brought a lot of pain, grief and constant disappointment. More than a decade of it. But then our kind Father led me on a journey of healing and restoration. "Savoring Single" was part of that process and also fruit from it. But now He is my pursuit and the deepest desire of my heart. Truly. So I haven't posted much because I feel my current heartbeat doesn't "fit" what one might expect from this feed. You know, all things boys and relationships and, of course... the single part. But living hidden in Christ, even as a single woman, is just as much savoring this season, as all the girlie relationship-focused stuff. I have a feeling I'll be posting more, again. Now that I have clarity on why I haven't for so long. I pray that you'll let Him take you by the hand to experience a better way, too. Because it wasn't until my eyes and heart weren't fixed on "the one" that I was able to see Him. His love for me. His desire of me. And I am more fulfilled and satisfied than all the waiting and hoping and chasing and dreaming. After all, I am still Savoring Single, but even moreso than I could have known as He fills my heart with a deeper stirring for the things of God. Here's to more just everyday life, journey and revelation. I pray it encourages you as you pursue all that God has for your life, love and legacy. Hugs, Shelley
I love this perspective so much more than "follow your heart." I see this phrase plastered on everything! And it sounds good... But a lot of times my heart has wanted things I didn't need and followed paths I should have never walked. ❤ is often just emotions Emotions are fickle. But purpose. That's steady. If you know your purpose it's so much easier to know if something is for you. Because your ❤ can tell you it is, even if it conflicts with your purpose. So instead of blindly following your heart, move in alignment with the (true) desires of your heart and the purpose of your soul. Quote from #rootedwoman
This is the wonder of who Jesus is to his core. And as such, as you are, to him. Think about it. It was as he was headed to somewhere else to minister to someone else when he paused... to heal the bleeding woman of her shame. restore value to the blind beggar. raise a son, rescuing also his mother. set free a woman from a rejected life. Sure. He healed thousands upon thousands. Even moreso, the world could not contain the books of all he accomplished in three years. And yet, he paused. For one. For her. For him. For you. Maybe what is in your heart doesn't seem big enough or important enough for a God so big. But we can be sure, by looking at Christ, that it's not. So dear one, reach our for him today. He'll pause for you. And I believe he's anticipating your moment with him, just like he did for them, because his hopes for you are higher than you can imagine! Your girl, Shelley

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