Single does not mean FOREVER

Can you remember the best bite of food you’ve ever eaten?

Okay…like for real, take a minute and think about it. The B E S T  B I T E  E V E R . . .

Did you ever have a meal when you told yourself, “I will remember this forever.”  Maybe it was a slice of decadent cheesecake, a perfectly cooked steak, a robust burger with melting cheese, or even momma’s fried chicken after being away from home for way too long?

This hasn’t turned into a food blog….I promise (even though I am getting hungry, now)! Just keep reading.

Living in California for a few years had its perks. The weather was beautiful. The beach was so close. There was never a lack for something to do and great food was on every corner, this time especially. On top of all of that, my southern-girl taste buds were introduced to more flavors. Along with this new pallet came an appreciation for seafood.

While living in Southern Cali I had a friend come in town to visit. Not sure how, because I was just a Bible College student, but we ended up with my sister and her husband at this super fancy restaurant…I’m sure it had several stars…but can’t even remember the restaurant now and I’m totally bummed about it.

My best bite ever was there and was something like salmon and dressed up mashed potatoes. I know, it sounds so simple….like I just built you up to let you down…but it didn’t disappoint. It was delicious! Being a fancy place, the portions were also small, so every bite mattered. I knew it wasn’t going to last, and knowing my budget, it’s not like I’d be back next weekend….or ever.

. . .

“So, you’re never going to get married?” That’s what I hear from some people when I tell them about this dream and my journey. When you tell someone you are perfectly content being single, sometimes it’s misconstrued that you’re “signing off on men and marriage” altogether.

But Savoring Single isn’t about being single F O R E V E R .

Because, for most of us, it won’t last F O R E V E R .

Paul did advise the church, when writing to the Corinthians, that it was a good thing for singles to not get married so their interests were not divided between God and the world (verse 33-34)…and this is the reference those people typically use…but this isn’t for everyone. Some will never get married, and that is okay. Some will get married, and that is okay. The important thing is that you are obedient to God in every season and with every decision in your life.  Paul goes on to say this, which helps give context to his advice above. (Read the whole chapter 1 Corinthians 7)

“Don’t be wishing you were someplace else with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life.” (verse 17)

Savoring Single is just this: enjoying where you are right now, in God’s place for you: living, obeying, loving and believing! You’re not defined by your singleness but by your relationship with God. So savor it. Enjoy it. Like my salmon and mashed potatoes. It’s not going to last forever. Your portion is small compared to your entire life…so don’t rush it, dread it and certainly don’t waste it.

S A V O R it.

Then…when God’s place for you changes, you’ll be in the right place to step into it….but that’s a whole ‘nother subject (that I’m sure we’ll get around to…so stick around).

Much love.

In this with you girl,


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